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La vidéo dure 00:23:35 secondes et porte le titre This punishment changed everything!, fournis par l’auteur. La description détaillée est la suivante :« Rejoignez cette chaîne https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX5N7vigufKWEnTKHeGJxyg/join Devenez membre Patreon https://www.patreon.com/TheDisciplinedLifePodcast Envoyez-nous un e-mail à : thedisciplinedlifepodcast@gmail.com Je commence une nouvelle série de vidéos pour partager plus d’histoires de mes expériences personnelles avec les punitions et la prise en main. Dans cette vidéo, je partage l’histoire d’une fessée récente qui s’est avérée être un moment charnière dans notre relation, la façon dont nous percevons nos rôles, les uns les autres et le rôle de la discipline dans nos vies. Suivez-nous sur Instagram @the_disciplinedlife @in.my.proper.place ***INFORMATION VIDÉO*** Cette vidéo est uniquement destinée à des fins de divertissement et d’éducation. Toutes nos vidéos sont destinées à fournir notre expérience personnelle et à partager des informations sur la sécurité et les dynamiques relationnelles alternatives pour les adultes qui choisissent de s’engager dans ces pratiques et activités, ainsi qu’à lutter contre la désinformation et les stéréotypes trompeurs. Les informations que nous fournissons proviennent d’expériences personnelles ainsi que de nos propres recherches et doivent être utilisées comme guide pour vos propres recherches continues, car les informations que nous présentons peuvent être précieuses et ne sont pas censées être exhaustives en fonction des circonstances individuelles de chacun. #relationshippodcast #domesticdiscipline #punishment #husbandwife #powerexchange #consensualrelationship #spankingpositions #wifespanking #maintenancespanking #takeninhand #headofhousehold #spankingstories ».

YouTube est une plateforme où les créateurs peuvent partager leurs idées, allant de contenus informatifs à des discussions plus personnelles, tout en garantissant le respect des règles et de la diversité. C’est un lieu d’échange sécurisé qui favorise la réflexion sur une multitude de thématiques.

Garantir un accompagnement post-session adapté

le sens profond de la sanction

La punition sadomaso, exercée avec soin, attention et inventivité, se révèle un vecteur puissant de lien affectif, de régulation et de jouissance commune. Dans les relations où l’homme est soumis et la femme dominante, elle instaure une dynamique intime et singulière.

L’importance de prendre soin des émotions une fois la rencontre terminée

Il est précieux de se donner un temps d’échange sur les ressentis, les plaisirs, les limites, afin d’adapter les expériences à venir et de renforcer la complicité. L’aftercare est bien plus qu’un retour à la normalité : c’est un moment d’attention réciproque, de reconnaissance et de lien, qui rend la scène bdsm profondément humaine. L’aftercare est une étape clé après une punition SM intense. La soumission doit provoquer des émotions variées comme la honte, le soulagement, l’euphorie ou la tristesse, qu’il faut absolument écouter et accompagner. Dans le cadre du SM, l’aftercare est indispensable après une scène ou une sanction intense. Il vise à apaiser, réconforter et fortifier la relation. Plusieurs rituels existent : un câlin enveloppant pour apporter chaleur et sécurité, un mot tendre pour rassurer, ou un bain chaud et un massage pour détendre le corps et prolonger la douceur du lien.

Inclure la sanction dans les pratiques sadomaso

Les scénarios et équipements associés à la sanction

Dans le cadre des jeux SM, la punition doit prendre la forme de mises en scène ou de jeux de rôle, apportant une dimension psychologique et théâtrale à la relation dominant·e/soumis·e. Ces scénarios symboliques permettent d’explorer le pouvoir dans un cadre consenti et codifié. La dominante peut incarner une cheffe sévère qui punit son employé pour une faute imaginaire, renforçant ainsi son autorité par la fiction. Une maîtresse doit aussi corriger son esclave masculin pour une désobéissance, accentuant la dynamique entre contrôle et soumission. Certains mettent en place un « tribunal BDSM » où le soumis est jugé selon des règles définies à l’avance et puni selon un verdict scénarisé. Ces jeux offrent un espace d’exploration riche, à la fois érotique et émotionnel. Les instruments utilisés varient selon l’intensité des sensations recherchées : la fessée à main nue reste un grand classique, intime et directe, tandis que la canne, le martinet ou la paddle permettent une douleur plus ciblée et intense. Pour varier les pratiques, l’intégration de pinces, bougies ou cordes doit apporter une stimulation et un contrôle différents. Ces accessoires, utilisés avec discernement, participent à la mise en place d’un rituel partagé, importante et sensuel, où le désir émane autant de la scène que de la punition.

Chercher l’équilibre subtil entre douleur et désir pour intensifier l’expérience

Loin d’être un simple choc physique, la douleur dans le sadomaso est une source de sensations complexes et profondes. Ce partage forge un lien solide entre dominant et soumis, reposant sur la confiance, l’écoute et le respect mutuel des limites, dans un cadre sûr. La douleur compte moins pour elle-même que pour ce qu’elle déclenche et édifie dans la relation. Savoir lire les signaux corporels et émotionnels du soumis est vital : trop de douleur annihile le plaisir, trop peu le réduit. Le cœur de l’information dédiée à la punition palpite sur www.punish.life. Dans le cadre de la punition SM, la douleur est un outil destiné à nourrir une dynamique émotionnelle et psychologique complexe. Employée avec discernement, elle facilite un lâcher-prise où la personne soumise se remet pleinement entre les mains de celle ou celui qui domine. Cet abandon volontaire n’est pas une faiblesse, mais un acte conscient qui renforce la profondeur du lien. La douleur doit également générer une intensité émotionnelle forte, voire cathartique, en libérant des tensions enfouies et en faisant émerger des émotions profondes, tout en modifiant la conscience.

Interpréter la punition au sein des jeux bdsm

Explorer les types de punitions et leurs objectifs

Dans toutes les configurations de couples SM, certaines punitions sont des repères fondamentaux pour maintenir l’équilibre dominant/soumis. Fessées, privations, positions forcées ou silence imposé : chaque action cible la discipline, la hiérarchie, ou l’éveil sensoriel sous contrôle.

Domination par punition

Fessée, silence, lignes à copier : autant de punitions sadomaso possibles. Elles obéissent à une logique de discipline partagée, visant à renforcer les règles établies et à alimenter l’intensité du lien. Dans un rapport sadomaso, punir ne signifie pas faire mal gratuitement, mais affirmer une autorité acceptée et jouer un rôle dans un scénario défini entre dominant et soumis.

Développer une dynamique de pouvoir saine et consentie

Usage des safewords et application des normes de sécurité

Le safeword, ou mot de sécurité, est un filet protecteur crucial. Il permet au soumis de stopper la séance quand ses limites sont franchies. En l’absence de ce mot, la sanction SM risque de basculer dans l’excès. Pour une sécurité optimale dans les pratiques sadomaso incluant sanction et jeux de pouvoir, certains principes doivent être appliqués. Le safeword, un mot simple et peu usité dans un contexte érotique comme « rouge », doit être choisi afin qu’il soit reconnu instantanément comme un signal d’arrêt. Il donne au soumis la capacité d’interrompre la séance si une limite est franchie, assurant un cadre consensuel. Par ailleurs, il est essentiel d’instaurer un protocole précis pour stopper toute activité d’urgence, via un mot, un geste ou un signe convenu à l’avance, surtout si la parole est restreinte. Le dialogue est fondamental : il est nécessaire de s’entendre en amont sur les limites, les désirs et les zones à explorer, puis de consacrer un moment après la rencontre à échanger sur les ressentis, les ajustements et les expériences de chacun·e. Ces précautions ne freinent pas la dynamique, elles en sont la base : en protégeant la sureté physique et émotionnelle, elles facilitent une circulation libre du pouvoir dans un cadre de confiance.

La clé d’une relation saine : confiance et consentement

Avant de recourir à une punition dans une relation sadomaso, il faut s’assurer d’avoir une connaissance fine de son ou sa soumis·e, afin d’agir dans un cadre sécurisé, consensuel et érotique, qui respecte les désirs et évite toute blessure émotionnelle. Dans toute dynamique BDSM impliquant la soumission d’un homme, le consentement est crucial. Il se traduit par une confiance réciproque, renforcée par une communication transparente sur les désirs, limites et non-négociables. Il est fondamental de déterminer clairement les limites : ce qui est tolérable, ce qui frôle la limite du supportable, et ce qui est formellement interdit. Ces repères permettent d’ajuster la sanction aux règles établies et de conserver un climat de confiance. Il importe également d’identifier les comportements qui méritent une discipline, pour que la sanction conserve son sens, reste rare et juste, et n’évolue pas vers la banalisation ou l’arbitraire. Cette rigueur dans l’écoute, la préparation et l’intention est ce qui fait de la punition un outil efficace dans la relation dominant·e/soumis·e, quel que soit le genre ou la configuration relationnelle. Le sitehttps://www.ilovebdsm.org diffuse des contenus spécialisés pour explorer la punition sous toutes ses formes .

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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: hey guys thanks for joining me yet again for another story time if you like these story times let me know by giving this video a thumbs up and let me know in the comments what you think about these if you want to get more content like this I have a ton of videos over on patreon that will delve deeper into these and other topics um the links to support the channel uh are down below and let’s go started so this video is going to be about my most recent uh punishment I don’t think I will ever forget this uh punishment that I just had because it was that kind of pivotal moment for our relationship we’ve been doing domestic discipline for almost 5 years and we are just coming to this like Turning Point moment in our relationship so again I just want to encourage you like if you’re within the first year of your domestic discipline and things still feel like you’re trying to figure it out that’s okay you don’t need to give up on domestic discipline you don’t need to think that you are just beyond repair um keep working at it keep trying to figure it out it is okay for it to take a while so this most recent spanking happened because I um stayed up past my bedtime I mentioned in the last video that that was the reason I was given my very first punishment spanking and so obviously old habits die hard so the next morning I had to confess it was the first time that kot made a decision about punishment before asking clarifying questions and what I mean by that is in the past he would always ask like what happened um why did that happen and then he would take all that information to decide what should be the outcome and this time I told him I was like hey I didn’t come to bed on time and he said what time did you come to bed and I told him it was 30 minutes late and he’s like well you’re going to be punished I was like oh okay like no questions no like no hesitation there you’re you’re just jumping to I’m going to be punished of course I knew that that’s what the outcome was going to be of course I knew I deserved it but it was just a little shocking to me to see that level of just Authority from him because that was new um to that to that extent that was new and then he asked like what what happened why did that happen and I had to admit that I ended up coming to bed late just because I didn’t want to come to bed on time and I had to admit that it was intentional completely intentional and so he was like okay all right then I felt so guilty I knew that I had completely messed up it’s not the fact that I came to bed late it’s the fact that I chose to out act outside the authority of my head of household I deliberately disobeyed a rule that was set by him for my good um and so I was just the weight of that was Weighing on me and I just was like thinking through everything thinking through why I made that decision and I re I had to recognize and realize that the reason I did what I did was because I don’t like that rule I don’t think that I want to follow that rule and I don’t really take the rule seriously once I realized all that I texted him and I was just I text him and I said look I don’t like this rule I don’t take this rule seriously but I know that you do I know that this rule is something that you value and so if you want me to Value this rule the way you value this rule you have to use this punishment to communicate to me why I need to take this seriously um he didn’t necessarily need my encouragement to punish me harshly he had already made that decision um which he confirmed later but I wanted to let him know without any question that he did not need to hesitate on this one that that if he wanted to step up and show me his authority if he wanted me to take him seriously as the head of household and as the one who gets to set the rules that I really I was struggling with that and that’s really what that text was meant to convey is I am struggling with taking your Authority on this one seriously and I need you to assert that Authority I was more or less just letting him know like this is where I’m at mentally this is where I’m at on on this subject and I need I need this to be a pivotal moment in our relationship because it’s going to be a pivotal moment and it can either be a pivotal moment that yields positive outcomes or it can be a pival moment that takes us 10 steps back and I kind of just wanted him to have all of that so that he could decide with intention how he was going to move forward so that evening I could tell that he was just frustrated and looking back I understand why he was frustrated and I understand that he had every right to be frustrated as a head of household if the person who is supposed to be under your Authority the person who vowed to be under your Authority tells you that they decided that they just weren’t going to do what they were supposed to do that’s frustrating I get it um but at the moment I was I was very very sensitive because I I’m very sensitive to Kota being angry with me and you would think that that in and of itself would keep me out of trouble um not always though and so I was taking his frustration at what had happened at my attitude at all of that and I was taking it and processing it as if he was very very angry with me now some people might say well frustrated and angry they are the same thing for Kota they’re not he can be frustrated at my behavior but not angry with me he can be frustrated at the situation and not angry at me he is able to um separate those two emotions and so where he can be very frustrated but in control he he gave me a very effective lecture however I I hate to admit this but I did not receive the lecture well I got very emotional very in my feelings and I started to get defensive I started to push back and he just he he was so good about just shutting every argument that I had down um calling me out for what I was trying to do which was trying to make him uh feel bad or assume any type of responsibility for the the situation those were all wrong like I should not have done any of that but that was part of I think what fueled um some decisions that were made afterwards and so he was very good about just holding his position and saying that this you know this is happening regardless of what you say about it he started the spanking the way we do our spankings at least at that point we have totally changed it because of this experience but he started by giving me um a warmup with our lightest acrylic paddle but by the time he’s done with the warmup I’m just like I was already like this is going to be bad basically cuz after the warmup I’m like I am already feeling this and so he had me um get our next Implement which is a long-handled wooden spoon and um our The Wooden Spoon really does Sting a lot and he um ended up giving me like 80 Strokes with the wooden spoon and each one was like full force each one stung terribly every stroke just felt like I wanted it to be the last it was so intense and he just was not letting up like he just he came at this spanking with this like just a very righteous indignation that he was going to make me regret my decision and he did um but that was just kind of the first stage of that is like he was like you will you will listen to me you will regret this like you cannot just choose not to follow the rules because you don’t want to and that’s what I was being punished for it wasn’t necessarily my bedtime although that was the rule that I broke it was the fact that I had this attitude that I could just decide not to follow the rules that I didn’t like and during the spanking itself he pauses he uh lectures in between you would think that mid spanking as I am you know every SWAT that I feel I’m just like please God let that be the last um you would think that I would learn to just you know stop talking uh no no I remember giving him push back and having an attitude even as he is spanking me and so the spanking continues after those 80 he had me get the um next Implement which is our like shorter acrylic paddle has holes in it it’s um it’s not a lightweight implement it is it is pretty hefty it causes um a very unique Sensation that is equally awful if not more awful than the spoon when he was done with the spoon I was like H thank goodness I’m going to get some reprieve here um you know this I don’t have to feel the sensation of the spoon anymore and then he started with the next Implement I was like can we go back to the spoon um he gave me oh 60 swats with that pausing uh in between some to reiterate his points to um make sure I understood exactly why I was being punished and what he expected and so he was doing all that and um again he was just full force swats which that was kind of new too like not to say that he wasn’t punishing me adequately before because I do think that before this spanking that my punishments were adequate but they weren’t um they never got me into the head space of like I just need this to be over right now like what did I do do what did I get myself into why did I think that it was okay to do what I did or why did I why did I put myself in this position I’d never gotten into that head space with our punishments before and I think it’s because he was very much tailoring the punishment to um the response and reactions I was having where this time he was like you’re just going to get this punishment regardless of of how you’re responding to it and so it was like full force swats he gave me 60 with that paddle after a few minutes in the corner he had me bend over um the back of our lounger I have um here in the studio and so it the lounger put is just puts me in the perfect position to receive a spanking to be completely honest the way that it’s curved just lends itself to that really really well and so I bent over the back of that and he took our long acrylic paddle which and it has holes in it and again it just has its a very unique Sensation that is even more intense like this punishment just kept building like the intens of the implements um and the sensations just kind of kept building on top of each other he gave me like 40 full force swats with that paddle and again I just felt like it was never going to end and I just got in that head space of like I I need this to be over I am so sorry for what I did and by the time the spanking was over I really was like I know that I talked about having like a bad attitude about it and kind of pushing back and kind of talking back by the time the spanking was over I was done I was like I am not going to talk back anymore I have no attitude about this I have no justification for this um I fully understood how wrong I was I fully understood by the end of it that the spanking really was for the blatant Disobedience and that I did not respect Kota enough to follow the rules that he had set it was for the attitude of thinking that I got to make those decisions for myself it was for the attitude that I get to just decide what I will and will not do in this relationship that’s not how this works that’s not what we agreed to and so it was really just for not respecting kot’s Authority and blatantly disobeying yes my bedtime was the rule that was broken so of course that was addressed but more than that what was addressed was the fact that I have to listen to the rules of my head of household I have to respect their Authority and I have to obey uh what they put into place and so that was what I was punished for and and I completely understood that and so at the end of that 40 um he sat the paddle down that is my clue like when he puts that paddle down onto like we have a countertop out in the studio um it used to be like a woodworking shed um which yes make all of the like wood shed jokes you want it it go right ahead um but yes our studio was a previous woodshed so you know um and so we still have like the countertop from when it was that and so when he sets that down I can hear him set it down that is my clue that the spanking is over I couldn’t move I was just I was so not when I I’m going to say broken because that’s that’s how it felt but not broken in a bad way broken in a way of like coming into new understanding of my role coming into new understanding of who my head of household is coming into new understanding of how our relationship functions it really was this like turning point for me to be like I can’t act the way that I’ve been acting I can’t have the attitudes that I’ve been having I can’t be a good taken in hand and continue to think the thoughts that I’ve been thinking I understand I understand the expectations I understand my role I understand my position I just came into this new understanding and it felt like a sense of being broken but again not in like not in a way that felt degrading or dehumanizing it it wasn’t a broken in in a way that like felt like something that needed to be repaired it was almost like that Brokenness was repairing what didn’t work in our relationship up to that point and I know that that sounds totally backwards because it does it sounds backwards but that’s the emotional process that you go through when you experience it and so for a minute I just couldn’t move and I just cried because when I had that understanding and that realization not only did the physical sensation you know prompt those tears but the whole emotional process understanding how hurtful my behavior was to my head of household and how detrimental it was to my relationship to behave the way that I did and I just cried eventually I stood up and Kota just took me in his arms and just let me cry I um told him how sorry I was I told him how I will never treat him that way again and he told told me that I was forgiven he he’s very good about giving me his forgiveness the next day I came to him and CU I was reflecting over the punishment still I came to him I apologized again I let him know that I recognized how wrong my behavior was in those moments how wrong I was to talk back to give him any type of attitude to you know do any of that and I offered I was like do you feel like I should be punished for how I I reacted in that spanking do you think that I should be punished again for talking back to you for arguing uh during the spanking and he said not this time he’s like I think that this was a new experience for both of us he said I want you to recognize your response recognize it was wrong and never do it again and that was very kind of him because again I was still feeling the physical effects of the spanking for for days and if I would have had to go through another punishment it would have been so difficult um so I I appreciate that he he let that a learning experience rather than uh punish me for that which he would have been well within his right to do um and we agreed that there there is going to be a certain standard set for um what I’m allowed to say how much I’m allowed to say during punishments and he’s not going to accept that from me again it just it really set us up on this new path in our relationship and it’s been nothing but POS it’s been nothing but good and we’ve had again we’ve had a lot of conversations and a lot of like new standards set higher standards set and he’s really like it has brought a new level of confidence in him in his authority and it’s brought a new level of ease in my ability to submit to that Authority and it’s just has helped our relationship function in a way that it hasn’t before so anyway this is getting really long so I’m going to cut it off there cuz I’ve pretty much uh exhausted the uh majority of that story but it’s all good things and if you listen to the last one of these story times and you saw where our punishment system started to where it is now it’s a huge change so if you haven’t listened to that one definitely go back and do that but um yeah I hope you enjoyed this story time let me know what you thought and we will talk to you guys next time .

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1.16 hey guys thanks for joining me yet again
4.12 for another story time if you like these
7.359 story times let me know by giving this
9.88 video a thumbs up and let me know in the
12.4 comments what you think about these if
14.2 you want to get more content like this I
17.96 have a ton of videos over on patreon
20.32 that will delve deeper into these and
22.92 other topics um the links to support the
26.16 channel uh are down below and let’s go
30.599 started
32.399 so this video is going to be about my
34.8 most recent uh punishment I don’t think
38.04 I will ever forget this uh punishment
40.52 that I just had because
43.48 it was that kind of pivotal moment for
47.16 our relationship we’ve been doing
49.64 domestic discipline for almost 5 years
52.92 and we are just coming to this like
55.879 Turning Point moment in our relationship
58.96 so again I just want to encourage you
60.84 like if you’re within the first year of
64.0 your domestic discipline and things
65.68 still feel like you’re trying to figure
67.72 it out that’s okay you don’t need to
70.6 give up on domestic discipline you don’t
72.6 need to think that you are just beyond
74.96 repair um keep working at it keep trying
78.159 to figure it out it is okay for it to
80.439 take a
81.68 while so this most recent spanking
85.68 happened because I um stayed up past my
90.68 bedtime I mentioned in the last video
94.119 that that was the reason I was given my
95.799 very first punishment spanking and so
98.68 obviously old habits die hard so the
102.6 next morning I had to confess it was the
106.079 first time that kot made a decision
108.68 about punishment before asking
111.119 clarifying questions and what I mean by
113.799 that is in the past he would always ask
116.52 like what happened um why did that
119.479 happen
120.439 and then he would take all that
121.64 information to decide what should be the
125.0 outcome and this time I told him I was
128.36 like hey I didn’t come to bed on time
131.319 and he said what time did you come to
133.08 bed and I told him it was 30 minutes
136.8 late and he’s like well you’re going to
139.64 be punished I was like oh okay like no
145.0 questions
146.8 no like no hesitation
150.36 there you’re you’re just jumping to I’m
152.239 going to be punished of course I knew
154.519 that that’s what the outcome was going
155.959 to be of course I knew I deserved it but
158.959 it was
159.959 just a
161.76 little shocking to me to see that level
165.76 of
167.68 just Authority from him
171.319 because that was new um to that to that
175.879 extent that was new
178.159 and then he asked like what what
181.879 happened why did that happen and I had
184.239 to admit
185.56 that I ended up coming to bed late just
189.159 because I didn’t want to come to bed on
190.76 time and I had to admit that it was
193.0 intentional completely
195.159 intentional
196.68 and so he was like
200.519 okay all right
203.04 then
204.56 I
206.28 felt so guilty
210.36 I knew that I had
213.04 completely messed up it’s not the fact
218.04 that I came to bed late it’s the fact
221.2 that I chose to out act outside the
224.519 authority of my head of household I
227.2 deliberately disobeyed a rule that was
230.319 set by him for my good
235.64 um and so I was just the weight of that
239.48 was Weighing on me and I just was like
242.72 thinking through
244.48 everything thinking through why I made
248.0 that decision and I re I had to
251.239 recognize and realize that the reason I
255.4 did what I did was because I don’t like
258.56 that rule I don’t think that I want to
263.12 follow that rule and I don’t really take
267.44 the rule
268.72 seriously once I realized all that I
272.0 texted
273.08 him and I was just I text him and I said
277.039 look I don’t like this rule I don’t take
281.039 this rule seriously but I know that you
283.919 do I know that this rule is something
286.96 that you value and so if you want me to
291.039 Value this rule the way you value this
294.4 rule you have to use this punishment to
298.52 communicate to me
300.44 why I need to take this
304.32 seriously um he didn’t necessarily need
307.4 my encouragement to punish me harshly he
309.88 had already made that decision um which
312.52 he confirmed
313.84 later but I wanted to let him
319.4 know without any question that he did
324.0 not need to hesitate on this one that
325.919 that if he wanted to step up and show me
330.16 his authority if he wanted me to take
332.24 him seriously as the head of household
335.639 and as the one who gets to set the rules
338.8 that I really I was struggling with that
341.479 and that’s really what that text was
343.199 meant to convey is I am struggling with
346.759 taking your Authority on this one
349.12 seriously and I need you to assert that
352.88 Authority I was more or less just
355.039 letting him know like this is where I’m
358.44 at mentally this is where I’m at on on
362.52 this subject and I
364.199 need I need this to be a pivotal moment
368.36 in our
369.199 relationship because it’s going to be a
371.199 pivotal moment and it can either be a
373.4 pivotal moment that yields positive
376.12 outcomes or it can be a pival moment
378.52 that takes us 10 steps back and I kind
382.08 of just wanted him to have all of that
384.96 so that he
386.56 could decide with intention how he was
390.319 going to move forward
393.4 so that evening I could tell that he was
397.88 just
400.039 frustrated
402.16 and looking back I understand why he was
405.319 frustrated and I understand that he had
407.199 every right to be
409.639 frustrated as a head of household
412.8 if the person who is supposed to be
415.039 under your Authority the person who
418.44 vowed to be under your
421.879 Authority tells you that they decided
424.24 that they just weren’t going to do what
425.52 they were supposed to do that’s
427.039 frustrating I get it um but at the
430.319 moment I was I was very very sensitive
434.759 because
437.479 I I’m very sensitive to Kota being angry
441.479 with me and you would think that that in
443.919 and of itself would keep me out of
445.599 trouble um not always though
450.44 and so I was taking his frustration at
454.199 what had happened at my attitude at all
457.36 of that and I was taking it and
461.12 processing it as if he was very very
463.479 angry with me
467.68 now some people might say well
470.159 frustrated and angry they are the same
472.0 thing for Kota they’re not he can be
474.919 frustrated at my behavior but not angry
479.12 with me he can be frustrated at the
482.639 situation and not angry at me he is able
485.759 to um separate those two emotions and so
490.319 where he can be very frustrated but in
493.599 control
496.0 he he gave me a very effective
500.159 lecture however
506.24 I I hate to admit this but I did not
511.56 receive the lecture well I got very
515.8 emotional very in my feelings and I
518.56 started to get defensive I started to
521.36 push back and he just he he was so good
525.6 about just shutting every argument that
528.399 I had down um calling me out for what I
532.68 was trying to do which was trying to
534.44 make him uh feel bad or assume any type
538.24 of responsibility for the the
540.2 situation those were all wrong like I
543.2 should not have done any of that but
545.88 that was part of I think what
549.56 fueled um some decisions that were made
553.959 afterwards and
556.44 so he was very good about just holding
560.24 his position and saying that this you
564.64 know this is happening regardless of
566.76 what you say about it he started the
569.64 spanking the way we do our spankings at
572.279 least at that point we have totally
574.16 changed it because of this
576.56 experience but he started by giving me
580.76 um a warmup with our lightest acrylic
583.519 paddle but by the time he’s done with
585.92 the warmup I’m just like I was already
588.76 like this is going
590.68 to be bad basically cuz after the warmup
595.68 I’m like I am already feeling this and
600.2 so he had me um get our next Implement
605.36 which is a long-handled wooden
607.68 spoon and um our The Wooden Spoon really
612.72 does Sting a lot and he um ended up
618.2 giving me like 80 Strokes with the
620.76 wooden
621.64 spoon and each one was like full force
626.44 each one stung terribly
629.88 every stroke just felt
633.36 like I wanted it to be the last it was
637.72 so intense and he just was not letting
643.079 up like he
644.76 just he came at this spanking with this
648.88 like just a very righteous indignation
651.92 that he was going to make me regret my
655.839 decision and he did um but that was just
659.639 kind of the first stage of that is like
662.88 he was like you will you will listen to
666.88 me you will regret this like you cannot
670.839 just choose not to follow the rules
672.72 because you don’t want
675.079 to and that’s what I was being punished
677.44 for it wasn’t necessarily my bedtime
679.92 although that was the rule that I broke
682.399 it was the fact that I had this attitude
684.56 that I could just decide not to follow
686.56 the rules that I didn’t like and
690.279 during the spanking itself he pauses he
694.399 uh lectures in
695.8 between you would think that mid
698.44 spanking as I am you know
702.32 every SWAT that I feel I’m just like
705.48 please God let that be the last um you
709.44 would think that I would learn to just
711.44 you know stop talking uh no no I
715.0 remember giving him push back and having
717.76 an attitude even as he is spanking me
723.079 and so the spanking
726.36 continues after those 80 he had me get
729.72 the um next Implement which is our like
733.519 shorter acrylic paddle has holes in it
736.36 it’s um it’s not a lightweight implement
740.639 it is it is pretty hefty it causes um a
745.32 very unique Sensation that is
750.0 equally awful if not more awful than the
753.199 spoon when he was done with the spoon I
755.199 was like H thank goodness I’m going to
757.959 get some reprieve here um you know this
762.72 I don’t have to feel the sensation of
764.56 the spoon anymore and then he started
766.079 with the next Implement I was like can
768.0 we go back to the spoon
770.639 um he gave me oh 60 swats with that
775.8 pausing uh in between some to
780.12 reiterate his points to um make sure I
783.72 understood exactly why I was being
786.279 punished and what he
788.56 expected and so he was doing all that
792.279 and
794.04 um again he was just full force swats
800.279 which that was kind of new too like not
803.8 to say that he wasn’t punishing me
805.639 adequately before because I do think
808.279 that before
809.92 this spanking that my punishments were
812.0 adequate but they weren’t
814.88 um they never got me into the head space
817.92 of like I just need this to be over
820.36 right now like what did I do do what did
822.68 I get myself into why did I think that
826.6 it was okay to do what I did or why did
829.68 I why did I put myself in this position
831.959 I’d never gotten into that head space
834.519 with our punishments before and I think
836.12 it’s because he was very much tailoring
838.519 the punishment
840.399 to um the response and reactions I was
844.32 having where this time he was like
846.12 you’re just going to get this punishment
848.24 regardless of of how you’re responding
850.56 to it and so it was like full force
853.44 swats he gave me 60 with that paddle
856.72 after a few minutes in the corner he had
858.639 me bend over um the back of our lounger
862.92 I have um here in the studio and so it
867.839 the lounger put is just puts me in the
871.079 perfect position to receive a spanking
873.68 to be completely honest the way that
875.759 it’s curved just lends itself to that
878.44 really really well and so I bent over
881.48 the back of
882.72 that and he took our long acrylic paddle
887.079 which and it has holes in it and again
889.759 it just has its a very unique Sensation
893.12 that is even more intense like this
896.839 punishment just kept building like the
898.639 intens of the implements um and the
902.36 sensations just kind of kept building on
904.759 top of each other he gave me like 40
908.36 full force swats with that paddle
913.0 and again I just felt like it was never
916.8 going to end and I just got in that head
919.199 space of like I I need this to be over I
923.199 am so sorry for what I did and by the
926.639 time the spanking was over I really was
929.839 like I know that I talked about having
931.8 like a bad attitude about it and kind of
933.68 pushing back and kind of talking back by
936.8 the time the spanking was over I was
939.36 done I was like I am not going to talk
943.639 back anymore I have no attitude about
945.56 this I have no justification for
947.759 this um I fully
951.88 understood how wrong I was I fully
955.519 understood by the end of it that the
957.839 spanking really was
960.36 for the blatant
964.279 Disobedience and that I did not respect
967.56 Kota enough to follow the rules that he
969.759 had set it was for the attitude of
973.639 thinking that I got to make those
975.48 decisions for myself it was
978.319 for the attitude that I get to just
982.36 decide what I will and will not do in
984.16 this relationship that’s not how this
986.279 works that’s not what we agreed to and
989.279 so it was really just for not respecting
992.279 kot’s Authority and blatantly
995.399 disobeying yes my bedtime was the rule
998.079 that was broken so of course that was
1000.759 addressed but more than that what was
1003.639 addressed was the fact that I have to
1005.88 listen to the rules of my head of
1007.48 household I have to respect their
1009.48 Authority and I have to obey uh what
1013.36 they put into place and so that was what
1017.48 I was punished for and and I completely
1019.72 understood that and so at the end of
1022.519 that 40 um he sat the paddle down that
1026.039 is my clue like when he puts that paddle
1029.52 down onto like we have a countertop out
1031.88 in the studio um it used to be like a
1034.4 woodworking shed um which yes make all
1038.839 of the like wood shed jokes you want it
1041.88 it go right ahead um but yes our studio
1046.6 was a previous woodshed so you know um
1051.799 and so we still have like the countertop
1053.72 from when it was that and so when he
1056.52 sets that down I can hear him set it
1058.679 down that is my clue that the spanking
1062.28 is over I couldn’t move I was just I was
1070.0 so not when I I’m going to say broken
1074.48 because that’s that’s how it felt but
1077.12 not broken in a bad way broken in a way
1079.28 of like coming into new understanding of
1084.32 my role coming into new understanding of
1087.2 who my head of household is coming into
1089.559 new understanding of how our
1093.0 relationship
1094.28 functions it really was this like
1097.039 turning point for me to be like I
1102.0 can’t act the way that I’ve been acting
1105.0 I can’t have the attitudes that I’ve
1106.559 been having I can’t
1109.28 be a good taken in hand and continue to
1115.28 think the
1117.6 thoughts that I’ve been thinking I
1122.159 understand I understand the expectations
1125.4 I understand my role I understand my
1129.159 position I just came into this new
1132.039 understanding and it felt like a sense
1133.72 of being broken but again not in like
1138.039 not in a way that felt degrading or
1141.4 dehumanizing it it wasn’t a broken in in
1145.4 a way that like felt like something that
1149.919 needed to be repaired it was almost like
1153.28 that Brokenness was repairing what
1157.12 didn’t work in our relationship up to
1159.64 that
1160.44 point and I know that that sounds
1162.6 totally backwards because it does it
1165.039 sounds
1166.24 backwards but that’s the emotional
1169.28 process that you go through when you
1171.12 experience
1172.76 it and so for a minute I just couldn’t
1175.919 move and I just cried because when
1180.12 I had that understanding and that
1183.159 realization not only did the physical
1187.039 sensation you know prompt those tears
1191.12 but the whole emotional
1195.039 process understanding how hurtful my
1198.28 behavior was to my head of household and
1200.48 how detrimental it was to my
1202.679 relationship to behave the way that I
1204.4 did and I just cried eventually I stood
1208.44 up and Kota just took me in his
1212.039 arms and just let me
1214.84 cry I
1217.6 um told him how sorry I was I told him
1222.76 how I will never treat him that way
1226.08 again and he told told me that I was
1229.159 forgiven he he’s very good
1232.12 about giving me his
1234.32 forgiveness the next day I came to him
1238.2 and CU I was reflecting over the
1240.559 punishment still I came to him I
1243.36 apologized again I let him know that I
1248.44 recognized how wrong my behavior was in
1252.12 those
1253.159 moments how wrong I was to talk back to
1257.76 give him any type of attitude to you
1261.799 know do any of that and I offered I was
1266.0 like do you feel like I should be
1267.4 punished for how I I
1270.08 reacted in that spanking do you think
1273.08 that I should be punished again for
1275.96 talking back to you for arguing uh
1278.52 during the
1280.32 spanking and he said not this time he’s
1285.559 like I think that this was a new
1287.32 experience for both of us
1290.039 he said I want you to
1293.52 recognize your response recognize it was
1296.88 wrong and never do it
1299.08 again and that was very kind of him
1302.6 because again I was still feeling the
1304.64 physical effects of the spanking for for
1306.799 days and if I would have had to go
1308.919 through another punishment it would have
1311.2 been so difficult um so I I appreciate
1317.2 that he he let that a learning
1319.279 experience rather than uh punish me for
1322.159 that which he would have been well
1323.559 within his right to do um and we agreed
1326.96 that there there is going to be a
1328.48 certain standard set for um what I’m
1331.799 allowed to say how much I’m allowed to
1333.52 say during punishments and he’s not
1336.96 going to accept that from me again it
1340.44 just it really set us up on this new
1343.72 path in our
1345.559 relationship and it’s been nothing but
1348.12 POS it’s been nothing but good and we’ve
1352.0 had again we’ve had a lot of
1353.48 conversations and a lot of like new
1356.279 standards set higher standards set and
1359.76 he’s really like it has brought a new
1363.08 level of confidence in him in his
1365.0 authority and it’s brought a new level
1367.799 of ease in my ability to submit to that
1371.6 Authority and it’s
1373.799 just has helped our relationship
1376.36 function in a way that it hasn’t before
1380.12 so anyway this is getting really long so
1382.799 I’m going to cut it off there cuz I’ve
1384.2 pretty much uh exhausted the uh majority
1388.36 of that story but it’s all good things
1391.88 and if you listen to the last one of
1394.6 these story times and you saw where our
1397.08 punishment system started to where it is
1399.64 now it’s a huge change so if you haven’t
1402.559 listened to that one definitely go back
1404.0 and do that but um yeah I hope you
1407.08 enjoyed this story time let me know what
1409.08 you thought and we will talk to you guys
1411.64 next time
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